I always want to wiggle, push, squeeze, hold, or carry Ava in movements. Yesterday I did several trot lengthens in front of a crowd. The first few I tried really hard to make them the best lengthens ever. They were tense, braced, choppy, and flat. So, I gave up and turned Ava back toward the far end so the other rider could demonstrate a lengthen. I asked her to move out more, just to get out of the way of the other rider. I heard gasps, and people saying, “That was the best one, [my name]”.
Moral of story: I should teach my horse how to respond and the LET her do it. I cause more issues by trying to “help” Ava than I solve.