Recently, a new boarder was out riding while I tacked up. While shooting the breeze, I asked her what disciplines she rides. She mentioned that she wants to learn dressage. Immediately, my ears perked up and that little thrum of excitement whirrled in my head. Yay! Another convert to the dark side! (You have to be a masochist to enjoy the challenges of dressage.)
So while I’m mentally preparing my speech for why she needs to set up a lesson with my trainer, the girl states that she’s going to take lessons from the jumper/dressage lady (trainer number 2). I was a bit confused about her choice and, in shock, I dropped the ball on the conversation. But the situation nagged at me…. And set off an internal debate about the moral/ethical implications of bullying a person to make a different choice from the one they’ve made. 😉
What makes people choose the trainers they choose? When you have a choice of several different trainers in your area, what drove you to attach your success to a specific person?
I’m not implying that trainers One and Two aren’t good trainers. From what I’ve seen, trainer One is knocking it out of the park at shows, and her students do well too. Trainer 2 is a great person, and she seems to know her stuff about jumping (horse’s are calm, rider has good control, etc.). But if you want to learn dressage, and the option to take dressage lessons from a GP dressage trainer is there, why would you choose to take lessons from the HJ person?
Partly, I’m a bit demoralized due to the fact that she never even asked me who I train with. Obviously the other rider who trains with the HJ is the person she wishes to emulate. She’s seen both of us ride on several occasions….. I feel like the fat kid who wasn’t picked for the basketball team. 😦 I wasn’t chosen. *sob*
I’ll live. Just wait til show season. *evil grin*
So why did you choose the trainer you chose, and are they still the right fit for you?